Coaching has made a significant and positive impact on my life. What is coaching? Coaching aims to improve performance or help to realise the potential in specific areas of life. Individuals can decide to get a life coach, business coach or even a relationship coach.
I am grateful to have been offered the opportunity to access a coach through the Uprising Leadership programme. During my coaching sessions, we covered topics such as imposter syndrome, assertiveness, setting and achieving goals. I am sure that many young people can relate to these topics. This post will cover what I learnt from my coaching experience and how I am overcoming the topics highlighted
Early on in my coaching experience, I realised that there is a difference between coaching, mentoring and counselling. My coaching experience involved me talking a lot! Although, I was aware that coaching is not a form of therapy. I was surprised that at the end of each session I provided my own practical solutions to the topics discussed. My coach’s role was to patiently nudge the answers out of me.
How did coaching change my life? Continue reading to find out how I address and overcome, imposter syndrome, lack of assertiveness and procrastination.
Imposter syndrome, the fear of being a fraud which can lead to lack of confidence in one’s abilities. I am a self-motivated individual however in certain environments, I put pressure on myself to over-perform. I have experienced imposter syndrome in my corporate and creative roles. I would question my knowledge and the quality of my work. I felt this was affecting me because of my lack of confidence in my abilities kept me from taking opportunities outside of my comfort zone.
Imposter syndrome can work to your advantage if you don’t let it paralyse you. I have learnt to make more of an emphasis on building my knowledge and putting it into practice. I am overcoming imposter syndrome by researching extensively, asking questions and learning from others. I reflect on each project I complete not just to highlight things I can improve but to also encourage myself when I do a great job.
On many occasions, I would keep quiet when I had important opinions or feelings to voice. Many times, I would say yes to things due to the fear of being criticised. At times when I felt undermined, even ridiculed I would stay quiet and upset rather than stand up for myself. I soon realised that I did not feel respected because I did not respect myself. You don’t have to be 6ft to gain attention when you know your worth and you are reliable, you will be valued.
Over the last few months, I have worked through some areas, pinpointing situations and individuals that cause me to doubt myself or make me feel reluctant to voice my true opinions. I have learnt to confidently, voice my opinions, in a clear and straight to the point manner. I have also learnt that they are times when your silence is necessary.
3. Setting and achieving goals
Setting and achieving goals is a continuous process and there is always room for improvement. I recognised that although I was good setting goals, I was also good at procrastinating. I needed to be more efficient and creative in my time management and organisation.
I now have accountability partners. I use alarms on my phone to remind me of key milestones. I also use journaling as a tool to evaluate my progress before I take a deeper dive into strategies and actions for progress.
Call to Action
- Highlight three areas you would like to work on.
- Research the best tools to help you grow (Self-help books, mentorship, coaching).
- Continuously reflect on your progress.
Thank you, Susan, for being a patient coach.