Success is something everyone wishes for but the road to success can be very crooked. In life, you don’t always work out but the most important thing is to learn how to adjust, do not give up and DO NOT SETTLE !!!
I have been reflective over this month as my younger sister and friends received their secondary school grades. I recall getting my higher grades (A levels) about four years ago and being absolutely distraught with my performance. For weeks I felt like my future was uncertain because with my grades I could not apply for Medicine. Looking back I am grateful for this delay. I ended up getting an unconditional offer for my current course. This opened a lot of doors for me in terms of employment, achievements and amazing friends. I am currently going into my last year of university and looking forward to graduating and an amazing career and future.
Over the past few years, I have faced some challenges, disappointments and delay. Through the help of God, I have learnt that it is just a process and I am not a failure. “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope” – Jeremiah 29:11.
I am no guru on this topic but here are a couple of tips on how I deal with failure or disappointment:
Don’t be too hard on yourself
Don’t dwell on your failure, it can drive you nuts! Things don’t work sometimes, simply pick yourself up. Treat yourself, go shopping or watch a comedy show. Do something that will lift your spirit.
Accept don’t expect
Although failure is inevitable, especially if you attempt great things (which you should anyway). It only gives you experience and increases your chances of success. No matter your previous experience or current situation you need to be confident in yourself and your choices so you do not fall into a cycle of habitual failure.
This can be difficult especially if you have been repeatedly disappointed. You just need to have faith and believe that things will work out in the end.
“Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the holy spirit who has been given to us” –Romans 5:3-5
“I can do all things through him who strengthens me”– Philippians 4:13
“But he said to me, my grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness. Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong”. – 2 Corinthians 12:9-10
You need to remove your emotions from the equation. Analyse but don’t be overly critical. Don’t compare yourself to others. Everyone has their own journey in life. It is also important to get feedback from a trusted source. This will help you identify your shortcomings, weaknesses and mistakes. With the correct attitude, you can then go on to address these issues.
No one wants to remain in a state of disappointment. Make a conscious effort to learn from your mistakes. Ask for advice from a trusted source, research extensively and then try again.
Prepare for success
“By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail”. You just don’t go into an important exam without studying. Success can be achieved when preparation and opportunity meet. In order to succeed you have to prepare in many dimensions: educationally, spiritually, financially and mentally. It takes time, dedication and hard work but the end result will make it all worth it.
Have a plan B and C
Okay so you have prepared to the best of your abilities but it doesn’t work out. This should not have you feeling like your whole world is about to come crashing down. Yes, it is not a great feeling when you work your butt off and still end up with a bad result but with a plan B and even a plan C you are not left stranded with a feeling of hopelessness. Time waits for no man you have to keep it moving.
“If you’ve never failed you’ve never lived”
What are your tips on getting past failure and succeeding?